There are fetishes that we actively engage in.
There are fetishes that we fantasize about.
There are fetishes that we are interested in actively exploring.
Three parallel vertical lists would help us to communicate better & quicker than multiple long paragraphs. A fetish may go into 2 lists such as Fantasy and Interested to show a heightened desire to explore the fetish. A member willing to educate them can pick up on this quicker. A member with a similar desire can get together with them to explore the Fantasy+Interested fetish item and determine how much they want to move the fetish from a strictly Fantasy to the Fetish column.